french mani in minutes

If you know me then you know that I am OBSESSED with painting my nails. I think this obsession steams from when I was younger and I would dye my hair every couple of weeks, well now that I am older and wiser ­čśë I have decided to not color my hair anymore, so the next best thing is changing my nails every couple of days. Yesterday I went on an adventure to find some gel polish that doesn’t require a UV light (which I did not succeed at), and instead found this little set for French manicures.

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I love french manicures, they look simple, clean, and classic. Knowing me you also know that I have a ‘thing’ about hands, I love well kept, polished, groomed hands. It speaks volumes to me. So since I wasn’t able to find a gel polish at Sally’s that didn’t require a UV light I decided to try these out instead. I was honestly a little skeptical because I have tried a couple different products that promise easy, clean french tips but sadly most did not deliver.

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For this product and like all nail products you want to start out with clean nails. Right now my nails are so short and I wasn’t sure how this would look but decided it was worth a shot. The process is relatively simple, someone took the instructions out of my box so I went on YouTube for a video of the directions. You file your nails and find the right sized nail tabby, blah blah blah, then apply a little of the supplied nail glue to the corners of the tips of your nails, and glue also to the strip of polish on the nail tabby. Once the glue is applied put the tabby in place. It looks almost like a tip for a fake acrylic nail, and then again it doesn’t. What the tabby is, is a housing unit for the strip of white polish.

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The instructions state to push the tab from the inside out to set it, do it about 2-3 times (I honestly did one and then moved to the next and once I placed that tabby I took the previous one off, I was worried that it would take longer to set) Once it sets you clip the tab off and file, apply a base coat and a top coat and voila! easy, fast, French mani

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This literally took me all of 10 minutes last night and I couldn’t be happier with the results. The box claims that it will last up to 7 days (we will see about that). This was a pure accidental find, but I am glad I did stumble across it. I do not always have time to sit and paint my nails but I really like the look of polished, groomed nails better. This is now my go-to for a quick french mani.

I bought the French wrap set at Sally’s for $16.50, (http://nailbliss.com/French-Wrap-Plus-Kit.html) the box contains enough nail tabs for 3 applications, as well as the nail glue, top and base coat, oh and a file to prep your nails and file off excess white polish.

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Loving and losing and being okay with it

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I have never wanted to be the kind of girl that let her emotions take over; one that cries over boys and can’t function normally because someone hurt their feelings, but I have turned into that person. I know that this is just a phase that will pass but right now it is very consuming. That surely isn’t healthy.

There are a lot of things in life I will never understand, and people in relationships who are not honest are one of those things.

Why lie to someone? Why spend so much time with someone that you have no intentions of being with on an exclusive level? Why would you knowingly waste someone’s time when you knew the way that they felt? Why would someone be so disrespectful and selfish when they know that the person would do anything for them? Why hurt someone so deeply when you have all the power to not hurt them?

I realize that this is such a trivial thing to write a blog about and maybe even stupid to a lot of people but I feel that I need to get it out of me. I have been holding so much in; I am at my breaking point.

Recently I have been doing a lot of meditating and reading on Buddhism. Specifically I have been reading about Buddha’s teachings on non-attachment.

As humans we give meaning and non-existent value to people and objects that are in our lives, we try and hold onto things in our lives with such a tight grip that when they are gone we fall apart. This happens because we are attached. We essentially  put our happiness in the hands of someone or something else. When we do this we are unknowingly causing unnecessary harm and suffering to our spirits. When we lose the thing that we held so tightly, that we are so attached to we also lose our source of happiness. When that happiness is gone is when the hurt starts to set in. This is where I am.

The hurt has set in because I was attached to someone. I gave someone the privilege to my emotions. Someone who did not deserve it. Not to say that this person was a bad person, but no one should ever be given that privilege. Our spirits and our emotions are fragile and they should be handled with extreme care and no one knows how to handle them better than ourselves.

This is not to say that we should not have relationships and hold things near and dear to our heart, but there is a healthier way to do it. By being aware of our interactions and reactions with those people and objects we learn how great of an impact they have on our beings. By being aware of this impact we can adjust accordingly.

I am learning that I can still love and be loved without being attached, without putting all of my happiness into fleeting objects and people. I can experience happiness with a person but a person should not ever be my source of happiness.

Sadly I have learned all of this a little too late, but I intend to take this new knowledge and apply it to my life from here on out.

The things that have happened over the past year of my life with this person I would not change for anything. Surely I wish that I would have not felt that I was lied to and disrespected but there are going to be far better things in life further down the road, right now I am experiencing a slight curve in that road.

At the end of the day I am a better person because I know that I was honest and loyal in my interactions. I went above and beyond and never asked for nothing in return. I gave myself wholeheartedly with no questions asked.┬á Maybe those statements seem self-righteous but I need you to know that that is not my intention. I make mistakes like anyone else, I am as human as the next person. I hope to learn and grow from this experience in time. Although I am often angry at the outcome of this situation I do not wish ill of him, he deserves to be happy as much as I do I just hope that he learns to see past his own nose. That there are people out there that will care about him more than they care about themselves, that age doesn’t matter, and that you cannot push everyone away.
-R